NigelCollins, I'm curious about your drainage arrangements.
So no neighbour's drainage - why did you expect to find it running through your manhole?
Where is the kitchen waste ("the feed from the kitchen") outlet in the manhole?
What is the "top left vent" venting?
Does the"ensuite" have a WC?
If the bottom hole has a "load of gravel" in it how come its able to take (apparently) the total house drainage when its blocking the progress of your rod?
To answer your questions:
I assumed that the cover was over the main sewer that would run across the back of the house joining up the neighbors - I now realise that the main sewer is further down the garden (I know its there as I have seen house plans from 1930 - just couldn't work out how far from the house)
The feed from the kitchen joins the main toilet and downstairs WC before the manhole and all enter the manhole from the bottom of the picture.
The 'top left vent' is just venting the manhole. I have no idea why but it looks as if it was installed when the manhole was installed - about 80 years ago
Yes the en-suite does have a WC - has been there about 5 years
I assume (as someone previously mentioned that the gravel is at the bottom of a 'u bend' - the 'u-bend' was why I wasn't able to get a rod through and why (according to other posters) the top hole exists. I will use a wet & dry vacuum to clear out the gravel