ok well if we're going to get off topic, the reason we cant afford it is because i recently got made redundant, then started a business which subsequently had to be folded due to lack of income and funds, and we've had to move back to this flat (my dad's as stated earlier) and he is charging us a very small rent luckily which means we have just enough money at the moment to cover our rent and bills and food.
so not only is getting someone out a stretch, there is no chance of wasting money on smoking or drinking, and if i was gambling, my missus would have kicked me out a long time ago.
So now you have the full picture, you know why its a struggle to do this, and why i have to do as much as i can myself. Also, im not stupid, despite what people think i know the basics and my previous jobs as network engineer etc mean im not likely to make stupid mistakes, and im not claiming to know everything anyway, which is why im here.