ok.. so its not that simple.
I guess, I can only speak for myself and a few others.. having discussed this with my pals.
I guess that I am beyond the young girl chat up in a club stage.
So, I can only comment on me and my friends and when we are out.
We nonchalantly scan the surroundings (especially if single friends are in our company).
We home in on initial point of interest.
This is worthy of note....
sometimes we will say behind hand, dont look know but look over there at so many degrees.. most gorgeous you know what able man!!!
But also, those of us who have come out, not looking to meet a man, may find that there is someone there who takes our eye and vice versa.
Very quickly our pals pick up on the 'looks'....
A manic stare would be scary...
Catching the eye and making brief eye contact followed by further glances, smiles... definately earns big big brownie points with my friends and I.
It is exciting.
It is more subtle than a grab to the bottom or a suggestive comment.
Ok, you may not have time on your hands... but if you do, flirting is the way to go.
starts off safe and fun and can go on or stop, depending on mutual interest.
If you are attracted, you cant help it, you feel impelled to look.