Hi
One good quality PIR (Kingspan/Celotex etc) are as much the same as one another, although I would suggest reading the technical literature before taking the plunge!
Someone's been stretching your imagination a tad too far about the condensation issue, may be an issue if you were using different types of insulation material!
If you use a PIR insulation - say T10 between rafters and K18 over the face of the rafters you are not going to get any problems with interstitial condensation as PIR has a relatively high vapour resistance, to the extent that no vapour barrier is required - had you been using fibreglass it will have been a totally different situation.
A 50mm air gap for ventilation is the maximum that you need to go to, rather than what some people seem to be quoting as a minimum, as there is little if any benefit in going above 50mm, some people don't advise a 25mm ventilation gap but 40mm (3.8") is going to make neglible difference to 50mm. So 50mm PIR between rafters that leaves you 50mm over rafters and you will also find that a 50mm thickness is easier to handle than the 75mm version!
Thinking about our situation in a bit more depth, if you use 25mm between the rafters you could be inviting trouble as the insulation in general will make the external facing side of the construction a lot colder and you may well find that the 25mm will not accommodate the freeze and thaw cycles that will occur in the worst of the winter months and you may well get a significant amount of condensation between the insulation panels something you are unlikely to have to entertain with a 50mm thickness! Also, moisture, timber and a lack of ventilation do not bode well!
The above scenario is a change to the normal problems associated with condensation which are related to warm moisture laden air from the occupied area coming into contact with cold air/surfaces and reaching saturation point and resulting in surface and interstitial condensation.
Whatever you do, you will need to maintain an air gap between the insulation and the underside of the roof covering which will entail the use of eaves and ridge vents to provide proper air cirulation.
The choice at the end of the day is yours - so the best of luck with whichever venture you decide to take!
Regards