As has been said, it would not really be possible to produce blanket 'rules', or even guidelines, since individual situations and requirements vary so much.Yes exactly. I'd thought there would be standard rules - or at least guidelines - for this so if you need to get the work signed off, you can be confident it'll pass. Now it seems like this isn't the case at all!
Given that, as a consequence of the above, opinions/judgements/interpretations will vary between individuals, the way to ensure that work (any electrical work) will 'pass' ('get signed off') is to involve the person who will be doing the 'signing off' at an early stage. If an electrician is responsible for a design, he/she will obviously 'pass it'!
Having "a second meter off your existing supply" would make no difference - the issue is whether the capacity of the total load would be adequate for your new leads. If the present supply were deemed to be inadequate, a new supply for the cabin would be very expensive to install, and would also lead to your having to pay two 'Standing Charges' etc.The limiting factor in my case - we either want to simply wire this off our existing meter or have a second meter off our existing supply - is (I think!) whether the power grid will say this is too high a theoretical load. e.g. house+cabin totals more than 100A.
The chances are that there will be no problem, the main issue being to ensure that the cable supplying the cabin (from your house) is adequate in size. Could you give us some idea of what electrical things you plan to have in the cabin?
Kind Regards, John