The daft thing about this whole debate, is that the EU feels they have to punish us to deter others from leaving, but in a fair world, they would just say fine, we both need to trade with each other, so lets just sit down and work out a mutual arrangement that's good for both of us. We trade with other countries, and they don't dictate to us, so why should the EU feel that they can do that to us.
In leaving, we don't want to go to the dinners, nor do we want to be ruled by them on virtually every aspect of our life, and if this was a good club to be in, they would have listened to our concerns over immigration levels, and said okay, we'll see what we can do to help, and we'd have stayed in. Instead, they acted like the camp commandant that Boris mentioned. We are better off out of it, and after a bit of a rough ride, will be fine, even Scotland will be okay; it's Ireland with a porous border that's in question.