Geraint i resent the comment that we are not fit to be parents. We were simply asking other parents how they did it, Having a baby has no set rules and timescales and we just wanted an opinion because all of our friends are giving us different advice.
Usually it may be too early for a 21 month old to be put in a bed, but our son is already developed to the stage of a 2.5 year old. He can use a potty, eats by himself with a fork/knife/spoon with no help at all from us, he can talk very well and even helps to put clothes in the washing machine and puts all his own dirty clothes in the wash bin! And at night time he is trying to climb out of the cot even at its lowest level and we are finding him balanced over the top bar at times.
Sorry i even posted about something not DIY i will not make the mistake again, but afterall the title of this forum is general discussion 'fed up of all that DIY talk, debate and discuss topical issues here'
so i take it as talk about anything other than DIY
Edited this post to make it clearer...