Forget about the Wilo just now, I can tell you how to set it up, its one of the simplist to do.
IF you require 6.4M to heat all your rads including the towel rail then you are wasting your time with a 6M Wilo or DAB Evosta3 or similar.
The UPS3 is a giant "6M" pump, it will pump up to 19.2LPM at a constant 6.4M, the others will deliver well less than that, 8.5LPM at 6.0M.
The UPS3 pump power is 60 watts, the other two, 36/40 watts.
You will just have to figure this out logically.
Originally a 5M pump did the job, since the power wash, you are having problems, you don't know if it was done properly, the boiler heat exchanger may be partially blocked now, mag filter (which you are checking) etc, pump might be faulty or choked.
You can inspect the pump two ways, one, the proper way, is to isolate the boiler, shut the pump inlet/outlet valve, remove the 4 stud bolts and remove the pump head complete with impeller, (see below). Check for sludge in the pump body ports, then open say the pump inlet valve partially to check that you have a reasonable flow and flush 2 or 3 litres into a bucket or whatever, shut the inlet valve and repeat with the outlet valve.
Get a tie wrap and push it through each pump impeller vane (to prove clear) in the direction of the red arrow. ("Impeller rev1" photo)
If you are not happy to remove the pump head, just remove the whole pump (which you are certainly used to doing!) and repeat the flushing as above, you should be able to see the pump impeller by looking through the outlet (see "Pump Impeller" photo below) and maybe stick something through at least one impeller vane to prove clear, the pump impeller photo is from my own 18 year old Salmson, still running perfectly, I only changed it because I'm interested in pumps and installed the Wilo, it is now running a neighbours system whose pump packed up one Christmas a few years ago.
IF the above shows up nothing amiss, I would then, if not before, buy that energy monitor which will 100% tell you if you again? have a pump problem.
When reinstalling use rubber gaskets.