Yes, I would put the thermal balancing valve on the return of the primary (store) side. I think the pump could go on either side.
I don't think you need anything to sense the temperature on the output of the DHW, it is assumed to be too hot anyway and will be mixed down with a TMV, so it also doesn't matter if it varies a bit.
The problem I see with a sensor on the DHW side of the exchanger is that you can't really sense its temperature unless there is flow through it. When there is no hot water demand, the sensor would go cold, open up the primary, and it would run for no reason. You could use some type of special exchanger with a sensor in it, but I would prefer off the shelf parts that are easy to replace.
I don't think you need anything to sense the temperature on the output of the DHW, it is assumed to be too hot anyway and will be mixed down with a TMV, so it also doesn't matter if it varies a bit.
The problem I see with a sensor on the DHW side of the exchanger is that you can't really sense its temperature unless there is flow through it. When there is no hot water demand, the sensor would go cold, open up the primary, and it would run for no reason. You could use some type of special exchanger with a sensor in it, but I would prefer off the shelf parts that are easy to replace.