I've been back today with a colleague, first thing we tried was looking for a switch/wiring on the end wall. We identified cable routes to both DSSO's and the passage switch but no sign of the switch I has expecting.
We tried tracking the cables in the ceiling but too much pick up from bedroom and heating circuits.
We got to the situation where we physically disconnected every wire at the switches and 'ceiling rose' and proved it to be this:
Pink dots representing unidentified joints.
I concluded it could be reconfigured to work like this:
Just as we were connecting up, the other daughter turned up with Dad from hospital with his brand newly replaced hip and major dressings on his arm and face, seeing the wires hanging out he asked if it would be possible to get the other switch working...
The third switch was found about 3ft from the end wall, hiding behind a dresser shown in green:
The very dresser he fell against in the dark, the very dresser that smashed the switch, probably when he fell against it, the switch they didn't use as the 'builder' who removed the wall and combined the lights onto one circuit in 1976 couldn't get it working properly. He even described that same functionality as found with the switch in the 'wrong position'.
It has a T&E and a 3C&E in classic 'conversion method' configuration (in grey circle), it was effectively switched such that both reds were connected and wiring proved as:
Final circuit when we finished: