Is there any help

[Bodd]

I've had a mate who has just died of Cancer..

His estranged wife has returned from Wales to look after 2 of his 3 girls 14 & 16..

To be Frank he's left them in a Fùcking mess.
No Will and the house is in shocking order.

The boiler works but is in bits the bath leaks the shower didn't work but she tells me after my visit it does now ...

The kitchen is all over the place. He left her with a Mortgage she can bearly pay the interest when there shouldn't be a mortgage

She's got no job and is visibly not well
I'm worried for her and the girls.

I'm limited in what I can do for her... what help can she get.

 

[Mottie]

Macmillan trust maybe able to help with advice and they be able to give her a grant or refer her to other organisations that can help with practical stuff about the house.

 

[Bodd]

Macmillan trust maybe able to help with advice and they be able to give her a grant or refer her to other organisations that can help with practical stuff about the house.

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He's gone. Will they really help her? People die of other things and couldn't rely on that support.

 

[Deleted member 267285]

I would recommend she speaks to the council or housing association. IMO it’s a welfare issue, and there’s people who are trained in this sort of thing. We have welfare officers where I work, but not sure if they’re just for our customers as opposed to joe public. However they do know how to help people out. There was a scheme a while ago where our housing would do a mortgage rescue, not sure if it’s still valid - this is why it might be worth them talking to local housing association (ex council type), or the council, whoever deals with housing in the area.

 

[Mottie]

He's gone. Will they really help her?

She won’t know until she contacts them. It’s worth a try at least.

So as not to give her false hope, perhaps you could contact them initially and ask what help they could offer and then let her know if they can?

 

[Bodd]

She won’t know until she contacts them. It’s worth a try at least.

I can do that. Your right it's worth a try.

 

[Notch7]

I've had a mate who has just died of Cancer..

His estranged wife has returned from Wales to look after 2 of his 3 girls 14 & 16..

To be Frank he's left them in a Fùcking mess.
No Will and the house is in shocking order.

The boiler works but is in bits the bath leaks the shower didn't work but she tells me after my visit it does now ...

The kitchen is all over the place. He left her with a Mortgage she can bearly pay the interest when there shouldn't be a mortgage

She's got no job and is visibly not well
I'm worried for her and the girls.

I'm limited in what I can do for her... what help can she get.

has she left her life in Wales behind her?

I mean does she not have property there?

In theory if your mate had custody, the children would be the responsibility of social services to sort out, so maybe that’s the place to start.

Sadly public services is totally decimated and there is no safety net left.

 

[Notch7]

The Salvation Army is worth contacting.

 

[Notch7]

Obviously she should be talking to the benefits agency to see what benefits she should be getting.

 

[Bodd]

has she left her life in Wales behind her?

I mean does she not have property there?

In theory if your mate had custody, the children would be the responsibility of social services to sort out, so maybe that’s the place to start.

Sadly public services is totally decimated and there is no safety net left.

She has nothing in Wales. She's Thai so no family and just a few friends.
I can imagine this must be do overwhelming for her.

 

[Mottie]

Are they her children or his from a previous relationship?

 

[Bodd]

Are they her children or his from a previous relationship?

Her Children

 

[Harry Bloomfield]

She has nothing in Wales. She's Thai so no family and just a few friends.
I can imagine this must be do overwhelming for her.

If she was married to him and there was no divorce, then there would be no need for a Will - she gets the lot. How big is the mortgage, could she perhaps sell up and move to somewhere smaller/cheaper. Has probate gone through yet, was it necessary?

 

[Brigade77]

If your mate had a mortgage he must have had life assurance.

Is the estranged wife the legal guardian of the girls?

 

[Mottie]

If she was married to him and there was no divorce, then there would be no need for a Will - she gets the lot. How big is the mortgage, could she perhaps sell up and move to somewhere smaller/cheaper. Has probate gone through yet, was it necessary?

That’s what I was thinking. Depending on what equity is in the house after a sale, she could perhaps buy a house in Wales where housing is cheaper assuming the children would want to live in Wales and/or with her.