I have a dithering girlfriend, desperate to move in here with me and me equally keen to have her move in, but on my terms - that she contributes to the running costs, but financially she is in a bit of a hole. She wants to keep her house on for now, just so she has a bolt hole if we fall out. Half the value of the house is owed to mortgage and a charge against it, as a result of her husband who gambled it away before he passed away, plus other debts she has accrued as a result of the mess she is in. She doesn't earn much and just about manages to service the debt, she claims the mortgage should be paid up in a couple of years all being well. She has had it valued at £120K and £550 pm if let.
She has also quite desperate to pack her present job in, move and find another job here, which would not be difficult for her. A friend of her's want to rent it 'as a friend' and she is talking about renting it to them for £400, well below the £550 she has been told it is worth. I have made clear I think this is a really bad idea, as well as illegal, plus what if her friend becomes a squatter? In addition, the house is 50 miles away and not easy to keep an eye on from here for her.
From my point of view, I want her here free of all this debt and money problems which have clouded her life for many years. Yes, I could easily pay off her debts or in fact simply buy the house outright, but then what and it is not my way of doing things, besides - that would make it my property, rather than her bolt hole. She's been dithering now for months.
She has also quite desperate to pack her present job in, move and find another job here, which would not be difficult for her. A friend of her's want to rent it 'as a friend' and she is talking about renting it to them for £400, well below the £550 she has been told it is worth. I have made clear I think this is a really bad idea, as well as illegal, plus what if her friend becomes a squatter? In addition, the house is 50 miles away and not easy to keep an eye on from here for her.
From my point of view, I want her here free of all this debt and money problems which have clouded her life for many years. Yes, I could easily pay off her debts or in fact simply buy the house outright, but then what and it is not my way of doing things, besides - that would make it my property, rather than her bolt hole. She's been dithering now for months.