men and stress release

[69er]

Go for an hour and half massage every week - love it. My "doc" is a lady, my missess doesn't mind - it all clean - except for the oils! Personally I prefer women to men - still talking about massages.

 

[toffee]

69er, if you dont mind me asking, what were your reasons for first going to get a massage?
I want to know how to make men feel comfortable about looking after themselves and Im wondering what would encourage / discourage men to get treatments.
seriously, I can joke with the rest on here about about massage ( and believe me, I have come home and said to my pals about fact that when my regular masseur was off and a male replacement did it, how he was attractive and it was lurrrrvely)

In reality, if I was doing it, I would be 100% professional.
It has to be about the client benefiting and going home feeling better.

For those who wouldnt go, why wouldnt you go?

 

[pickles]

Can you believe this, my wife organised it and said to them "do you have any special services for men"

Apparently she thought men could get cheaper massages than women, ie special offers and such like. At least that's her story. God only knows what they are going to do to me

 

[toffee]

Pickles.. I live in cumbria and so may be naive about these things. ( I have never seen anywhere or heard in the news etc about any seedy massage parlours here .....)
just be sure you havent been booked in for a pamper day.. massage, meal, swim then back sack and crack

 

[gasmarkone]

Well, just go with the flow! I dont think I could have a massage without a big[?], well its really nice.

 

[Zampa]

Ive always wanted a really pukka massage..but where do you go to get a straight one?

I would only let a woman do it..I just wouldnt feel comfortable having a bloke rub is hands all over me..im not a tactile person at the best times..and would find it wierd a strange woman doing it let alone a strange bloke.

But id only feel comfortable with them doing my back or maybe my calfs..no higher!!!..my imagination would start playing 'tricks' with me otherwise!!!

As for 'extras'...no thanks..I would never pay for that..ever!..a few mates of mine go to the local rub-a-tug shop after a night out and I cant believe they part with their hard earned for some brass to tell them how wonderful/big/muscular they are...how much ordinary blokes turn them on..blah blah blah..

So clinical and cold..

Sorry...my mind was wandering a bit then...

Id love a foot massage and a Indian head massage..

At the moment a nice back scratch would go down well....mmmmmm!

 

[69er]

Toffee - ask away! I decided to go mainly for relaxation - find it so chilling - I just go to sleep once she has finished fliping me.Also realised that the massages helped ease my muscles after work/sport which is a bonus. If I won the lottery I would have a personal masseus whom will be on call! A lot of younger guys think its "weird" - all my mates take the **** but I just tell them that my back and legs are not sore/stiff then they shut up! Defs money well spent! I know some people dont like being touched - I am not one of them! Touch away! Not being rude!

 

[gasmarkone]

Back scratching, one of lifes greatest pleasures. My wife hates it, wot a waste!

 

[toffee]

It must be where I live but I really would not know anywhere that you could go for extras!

I thought the only worry men had was thinking your mates would think you were soft going for a 'girly' massage'.
I didnt realise the seedy parlour thing was a real issue.

Im convinced though that there is a market for men wanting a massage for the right reasons and Im going to continue with my pal to make genuine massage accessible to both men and women.

 

[69er]

Good luck toffee - its sure to succeed! Just to answer your question regarding ecourangement etc - people are different - some don't like being touched. Think approaching a gym or advertising at sports clubs would help attract clients. As for the average joe - it's down to themselves and the people around them! My lady has a deal with the local gym. She also advertises there and then it spreads to word of mouth.

 

[toffee]

69er, hermes mentioned about setting..

my only concern about sports club seting is that it isnt the best environment for relaxation?

 

[pickles]

We are just like Monkeys, go to the zoo and see what I mean. They spend all day itching and scratching each other

That's what we want but are to civilised to admit it

Obviously i'm not talking about myself here, just other people

 

[ban-all-sheds]

Would you feel uncomfortable with a lady doing it?

Possibly, but I expect if I shifted my position a bit the discomfort would ease...

This is not a joke

That was meant to be....

Seriously...

Seriously - I expect a big problem you'll face will be the blokes who expect the "executive relief service", IYSWIM....

 

[Gary_M]

..........my only concern about sports club seting is that it isnt the best environment for relaxation?

Then, this is your 'selling point'. Sports Centres are actually terrible for promoting such things as relaxation, and despite contrary believe, exercise doesn't help to deal with stress, as it is stimulating the endorphins more (i.e. causing MORE stress = physical and mental).

So, get in there gal and teach them the benefits about a holistic approach to health and fitness Show them where massage can fit in, in terms of interrupting the 'stress cycle'.

They can provide the 'stress' and damage to a persons body and mind, and you can provide the relaxation (which as you noted does NOT often happen in gyms - even the majority of their cool down exercises involve 'stretching' of muscles rather than what they really need = relaxation).

Ok, here is my negative comment:

My only concern about techniques such as massage are that they do not promote 'owndership' - i.e. person feels stressed so they go to someone else to sort it out for them (I am sure that someone will come back and say that the person has displayed ownership by deciding to go for a massage in the first place - but what I mean is that they have used a 3rd party to deal with a 'personal' perception). It is not a good long-term solution to use a 3rd party as the person really needs to take responsibility and control of their life and learn to cope/deal with their stress. However, if you can go down the route of the immediate (short-term)'therapeutic benefits' I would suggest this to be a better approach and better marketing strategy. Highlight how you are just one cog in the wheel of supporting a person in dealing with THEIR stress, rather than YOU are the person who will get rid of their stresses.

Hopefully I'm not waffling on too much, and you can understand what I mean

 

[69er]

toffee - she only does sports massages at the gynm but advertises her other therapies there too. These she runs from home.I go to here house where she has an upstairs room converted. It's basic - got a massage bed, chair, table and cd player - its basic but comfortable. Low lighting and those funny cds - instrumental and waves and nature sounds. I am more worried about how good the doc is with her hands than the wall paper.