The problem is we don't know if line. This
shows there is a potential difference between his thumb and the terminal, but we don't know if the relay is open or closed.
If we look at the wiring of a mid position motorised valve
we see there are numerous paths current can take, and only showing one make of motorised valve. Using a meter and reference to neutral we can seen if volt drop across resistor or diode and we have a chance. But a neon screwdriver is a great tool to identify when we have borrowed neutrals, or any other reason why power returns while working on some thing, but useless as a test meter.
I remember working on daughters Y plan, and I was really scratching my head, at that point I did not have internal plan of the valve, and it turned out one of those micro switches had stuck, also had problems with Nest Gen 3 with boiler firing up when no heat called for, which was simply the anti legionnaires software kicking in.
So you have 3, 4, and 6 output from heat link, 3 connects to white on motorised valve, 4 connects to grey hot water off, and 6 to orange boiler run. Colours are wires of the motorised valve, no other colours can be trusted as correct.
So Grey does nothing unless white is powered, if white is powered then it makes the valve go all the way over so no DHW, and Orange is an output. For DHW only the motorised valve is at rest, and the orange is made line direct from the tank thermostat.
White (3 on heat link) is connected with a resistor and diode to orange (6 on heat link) so if the boiler is running due to DHW being on, the white will still likely have enough power to light a neon, however it is likely less than mains voltage how much less depends on the ohms per volt of the meter being used.
So remove the wire in 3 of heat link and put in a connector block to keep safe, and then test output of heat link. Even a table lamps with tungsten bulb is better than a neon screwdriver, the neon screwdriver uses so little power.