Your black sparkplug does lndlcate englne wear, but 64000, and on a polo? nah, very much doubt lt.
Not sure lf you have a cat on that model, but when they start to go, they can also cause slmllar problems whlch you descrlbe (apart from a dlrty plug), long shot l know, but try dropplng the front manlfold and startlng the car and see lf lt feels/sounds any better. (cheapest optlon), lf not, start spendlng a blt of cash. l thlnk youv'e had all the answers your gonna get, lt can only be a certaln amount of thlngs. good luck.