Renault own a controlling share in Nissan, so over the last 5 years or so, there has been a gradual rationalising of models between the two. Depending on age, you migh find that the Nissan will have a Renault engine anyway. They certainly share diesels these days.
If anything, I'd expect a diesel to give a bigger improvement in fuel economy compared to the petrol in town than on a mpotorway. Diesels do really well at part-throttle motoring, so any sort of driving where you're at small throttle openings will be much better in the diesel. Obviously, if you drive on the motorway with your foot almost to the boards, the difference in fuel consumption might not be quite as good as expected.
The DPFs get rid of the black, sooty smoke that diesels make when you boot them. I don't think they help with tax in any way - just the environment. They do, however, have a reputation (and not just on Renaults) for being troublesome. I don't think the technology is quite mature yet, and would think twice about buying an early DPF car.
With ANY second hand diesel, beware of one that a hard-up owner has tried to run on "chip fat" - the modern "common rail" diesels can't handle it and a new injection pump costs thousands.
Renault generally have a poor reputation for reliability with members of the trade that I've spoken to - but are improving. We hired a Grand Scenic on holdiay this year and I was very impressed. Overall, however, I rate the VAG diesels as about the best around at present (VW, Skoda, Seat).