Once one looks at smart switches, two-way can be done with zero, 2, 3, or 4 wires between the switches, when wiring a machine, I had two wires, carrying 24 volts DC, which could go to 31 units, and each unit could switch 4 items. (ASii) And this did not use wireless.
But the cable was special, and also very expensive, so although it can be done, not really what we are looking for with domestic, ideally job one is work out what cables go where, one can get around the lack of cores,

this shows how switches only have power, and can work as two-way, and I have already shown battery powered units.
I would agree, really best to work out what you have. And some smart devices are expensive. I had the same problem with my central heating, only 2 wires boiler to main house, and I wanted to control central heating and domestic hot water with just two wires, so I used Nest Gen 3, maybe not the best idea, but just pointing out there are ways around the problem.
So what we are looking at, is your skill. And cost. The simple way out, is employing an electrician, and clearly you don't want that expense, but how much are you willing to pay?
So with two buttons, and £60 will give you up and down stairs control, and you can even set it up as a two-way dimmer if you want. This
is cheaper, but you need to sort out the wiring, and the forum is full of requests for help with these systems, plus likely needs deeper back boxes, so still looking at around £25 by time you have fitted new back boxes, and also need to work out what goes where.
So what do you want to do? I am happy with no switches, I just use voice commands with Google Nest Mini's, same can be done with Alexa, my landing light should work with the old switches, and sometimes it does, but been using voice commands now for a couple of years.
I have a relay built into the lamp, in hindsight, would have been better with just smart bulbs, but what do you want? I used the smart button as shown for dinning room when temporary used as a bedroom for my wife, they were never used, work as a doorbell push button now, wife used voice commands, she has got use to "Hey Eric, make me a cup of coffee?".