What do you have in your home now that you didn't at your childhood home?

[opps]

Gosh I’m truly sorry to hear that, I hope you get yourself sorted out OK.

Get yourself a good lawyer, you still have a right to a fair share of your contribution over the years

Thanks mate. I was pretty much blindsided. She sent gave me no reasonable warning.

She allowed me to swing by 5 days after the event to pick up as much as I could carry on the tube. Today, she allowed me to swing by even though she was at work. Again, I could only carry two canvas bags of tools.

Our relation had been in terminal decline since 2020 but I worked on the assumption that she couldn't afford the mortgage on her own. We didn't argue or anything like that.

I have/had a 4m by 6m garage, which I built. I think I need to work out which tools I can afford to store. Clothing wise, I will probably have donate 60% to charity. I am lucky that my mum still had a bed for me. A bit embarrassing though. But little in the way of storage

Before today, I thought that there was a 25% that she would ask me to come home. I now rate it at less than 12.5%. She has started to box my bedroom stuff up.

I am definitely going to have to sell some tools and accordingly need to turn down some jobs because I cannot afford storage space.

I can prove that I was paying a grand a month for at least the last 10 years, before, I used to pay cash into her account at Lloyds in Ealing.

Given the way that she is treating me, I think I need to get legal advice.

 

[opps]

If you have your name on the bills, even if not all of them, then you're halfway there to proving you have a claim on "her" assets.

Nozzle

Nah, no name on bills

At one point we had a joint bank account but because my credit rating was poor, she closed the joint account. Ironically, part of the reason that I was in debt was A) I am an arse B) I used my credit card to pay my share of the bills. I had about £30k of debts, she reached about £90k. She did the IVA path, meaning that I had to up my share of the household bills.

At the time, I thought, yeah... it is where my stepson lives and my babies- read: the three dogs. Each of the dogs are "gone" and my stepson moved out.

 

[motorbiking]

are you married? Is this divorce?

Sadly I am an expert. happy to share.

 

[noseall]

Married life eh. If anyone wants any tips, I'm about to start cleaning the cooker.

My missus hasn't paid a bill since I can remember. She didn't moan either when I paid the mortgage off, a number of years ago. Car purchases - pfft! You have to look after these young lasses.

 

[motorbiking]

Do you really think that is helpful advice to the poor chap?

 

[noseall]

Do you really think that is helpful advice to the poor chap?

I don't need your permission to post or to dictate the content, on a public forum ta.

I'll can let you know if he starts a thread, if you like?

 

[Notch7]

Thanks mate. I was pretty much blindsided. She sent gave me no reasonable warning.

She allowed me to swing by 5 days after the event to pick up as much as I could carry on the tube. Today, she allowed me to swing by even though she was at work. Again, I could only carry two canvas bags of tools.

Our relation had been in terminal decline since 2020 but I worked on the assumption that she couldn't afford the mortgage on her own. We didn't argue or anything like that.

I have/had a 4m by 6m garage, which I built. I think I need to work out which tools I can afford to store. Clothing wise, I will probably have donate 60% to charity. I am lucky that my mum still had a bed for me. A bit embarrassing though. But little in the way of storage

Before today, I thought that there was a 25% that she would ask me to come home. I now rate it at less than 12.5%. She has started to box my bedroom stuff up.

I am definitely going to have to sell some tools and accordingly need to turn down some jobs because I cannot afford storage space.

I can prove that I was paying a grand a month for at least the last 10 years, before, I used to pay cash into her account at Lloyds in Ealing.

Given the way that she is treating me, I think I need to get legal advice.

If I’m reading between the lines correctly it’s seems you are upset by the sudden loss of a home rather than the relationship…..so maybe long term it might for the best, even if it does leave you up sh1t creek at the moment.

If it’s been terminal since 2020, it can’t be good for you mental health

Seems pretty nasty after 26 years, I wonder what’s led her to that. I’ve no idea what age you are, it couldn’t be menopause, could it?

I seem to recall your partner got a decorator in to do the hallway when she couldn’t wait for you and it was so bad you had to redo it…..apols if It was somebody else.