What is it called, when during a normal conversation, the person you are speaking to, sees the need to repeat what they have already stated, two or three times more, though maybe not the exact same wording? Is there a name for it?
What is it called, when in conversation....
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Depends who you're speaking to. School children often need it repeating as they are not paying full attention.
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Just a normal, social conversation, between adults on the phone, with someone I know. A female. To be fair, I'm not that chatty, unless I have something to say worth saying, and she chats endlessly, often repetitively, as if wary of the conversation drying up/ending/a short silence.
People with autism tend to do it; although the Irish tend to repeat a word for emphasis at the end of a sentence in Gaelic.
No, it's the whole sentence repeated, but reworded - as if you didn't hear the first version.
Really?
Weird.
****ing annoying?
Are you getting fed up with that Essex girl already Harry?
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It's probably a sign of having limited social interaction. A lack of conversations and limited subjects to talk about.
A lot of older, especially single people suffer from it. Probably a story that is very important, or an unusual event they play over to themselves.
Then when they get somebody to tell it to, they can't help themselves repeating it.
No idea what it's called but I've seen (heard) it a lot in older people. No doubt it happens with younger too.
A lot of older, especially single people suffer from it. Probably a story that is very important, or an unusual event they play over to themselves.
Then when they get somebody to tell it to, they can't help themselves repeating it.
No idea what it's called but I've seen (heard) it a lot in older people. No doubt it happens with younger too.
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I can think of half a dozen "reasons" why people might do it.
A teacher I know does it. She'll take the "teacher" approach:
— to tell you what they're going to tell you
— to tell you what they actually need to tell you
— to repeat it in a different form incase you didn't get it first time
— to reprise and remind you what they told you.
She doesn't know she's doing it, it does trip her up.
(They have an annoying corpus which treats the curriculum as the way truth and life like it's a religion. They repeat it endlessly and get huffy if you try to discuss anything beyond it - indignant that you aren't an expert, and why are you expecting them to be?)
Another one is insecure people trying to assert that they're important, usually when some minimal degree of non-mainstream (to them) knowledge grows in importance in their mind. It's characterised by a number of the parroting conspiracy theorists on this forum. If you meet them in person you'd look them in the face and point out why they're being a stupid nob. Sometimes they're so deluded they bring it up again after they've been squashed. If it's a subordinate in an office, a little of that can end their career. I know because I've done it to people, though it's not the smartest manager's strategy. Everyone sees it and treats them with derision. If they were right on what they said, they infer some validation for saying, it but of course they miss the corrosive effect repetition has on their respectability. The Game is revealed if you ask for more detail - they won't have that.
Almost universally, they don't realise they're doing it because the "payoff" from the "game" they're trying to play is what keeps them going.
Those terms were coined 40 odd years ago in the seminal "Games People Play by Eric Berne". Google it and the descriptions in the hits will probably make you smile if you haven't seen it. We all know someone...
There's a couple of addicted players of NIGYSOB and YesBut around here. There's another game whose name I forget, where someone will raise a stupid point, expecting you to discount it but they have the next ready. The payoff is power of getting to to waste time on them. The characteristic behaviour here is for some dumb nob to post a link and nothing else, expecting: a) respect for finding some supposed revelation, b) control by making the reader work to discount it, while they play NIGYSOB. These people are the scum of society.
As @carmanmemoranda points out, (posted while I'm typing), the old and institutionalised get reassurance from the familiarity of ritual repetition, somehow learning to forget or avoid the self-criticism that they've told you that story a hundred times before. The telling and communal enjoyment of it is their comfort blanket, in their isolated circumstance.
A teacher I know does it. She'll take the "teacher" approach:
— to tell you what they're going to tell you
— to tell you what they actually need to tell you
— to repeat it in a different form incase you didn't get it first time
— to reprise and remind you what they told you.
She doesn't know she's doing it, it does trip her up.
(They have an annoying corpus which treats the curriculum as the way truth and life like it's a religion. They repeat it endlessly and get huffy if you try to discuss anything beyond it - indignant that you aren't an expert, and why are you expecting them to be?)
Another one is insecure people trying to assert that they're important, usually when some minimal degree of non-mainstream (to them) knowledge grows in importance in their mind. It's characterised by a number of the parroting conspiracy theorists on this forum. If you meet them in person you'd look them in the face and point out why they're being a stupid nob. Sometimes they're so deluded they bring it up again after they've been squashed. If it's a subordinate in an office, a little of that can end their career. I know because I've done it to people, though it's not the smartest manager's strategy. Everyone sees it and treats them with derision. If they were right on what they said, they infer some validation for saying, it but of course they miss the corrosive effect repetition has on their respectability. The Game is revealed if you ask for more detail - they won't have that.
Almost universally, they don't realise they're doing it because the "payoff" from the "game" they're trying to play is what keeps them going.
Those terms were coined 40 odd years ago in the seminal "Games People Play by Eric Berne". Google it and the descriptions in the hits will probably make you smile if you haven't seen it. We all know someone...
There's a couple of addicted players of NIGYSOB and YesBut around here. There's another game whose name I forget, where someone will raise a stupid point, expecting you to discount it but they have the next ready. The payoff is power of getting to to waste time on them. The characteristic behaviour here is for some dumb nob to post a link and nothing else, expecting: a) respect for finding some supposed revelation, b) control by making the reader work to discount it, while they play NIGYSOB. These people are the scum of society.
As @carmanmemoranda points out, (posted while I'm typing), the old and institutionalised get reassurance from the familiarity of ritual repetition, somehow learning to forget or avoid the self-criticism that they've told you that story a hundred times before. The telling and communal enjoyment of it is their comfort blanket, in their isolated circumstance.
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