There is no "de minimus" in building regulations. Its a fire safety and means of escape issue, and that is always significant.ather than a de minimis
What you are asking a BCO to do is to certify something as compliant which is not when measured against the regulations he has to enforce. There is no subjectivity with this.
I'm not sure why you are siding with a builder who has clearly not built to the required standard, not kept to his contractual obligations to his client, is accepting payment for an incorrect job, is telling his client to accept an inferior, non-compliant job and telling his client to accept the risk of all that. I can't understand why you would do that, then the obvious thing is for the OP to get what they paid for and have a compliant building.