dstil,
Sorry to hear that.
First some questions and then a simple test.
1) Which relay module did you buy (can you post an ebay link?)?
2) When Relay Module is connected to the 0V (GND) and 12V (VCC) and Switched_12V (IN) of the motor does the relay module turn on and light up (ie are its LEDs on?).
Now for my quick test...
A) Get a short length of thin wire.
On the relay module screw the wire into the Switched 12V (IN) connection.
Leave the other end loose for now.
B) connect the Relay Module to 0V (GND) and 12V (VCC) of the Motor (or some other power source)
DO NOT connect the Switched_12V (IN) to the Motor.
If all is okay the Relay Module should turn on and light up as per question 2.
C) Take the loose end of the wire that is screwed into the Switched 12V (IN) connector.
Touch this loose end of the wire into the bare metal of the 12V (VCC) connector.
This is to temporarily put 12V into Switched 12V (IN) connection.
When you do this does the relay change the position of its internal switch?
D) When you remove the loose end of the wire from 12V (VCC) does the relay change the position of its internal switch back again,
SFK
Ok, update so far.
I did the test and basically the relay module operates exactly like you describe above. However, when I wire the module so as to connect it to the main PCB the relay doesn't operate at all although it is still lit up.