I'd leave the main switch on at first, but turn off all the lights and appliances (including water heater and fridge). Observe your meter. It should have stopped. Write down the reading.
Then go and turn on everything in the flat, take a kettle or fan heater and run it at every socket, run some hot water, turn on the lights.
Observe their electricity meter (if they have one). It should increment every time you turn on something in their flat.
Then go downstairs and look at your meter. Has it moved? If so, turn all the MCBs off and the main switch off, then go upstairs and see if any light, socket or appliance has stopped working. If it hasn't moved, then there is nothing to suggest the flat is using your electricity.
Then go and turn on everything in the flat, take a kettle or fan heater and run it at every socket, run some hot water, turn on the lights.
Observe their electricity meter (if they have one). It should increment every time you turn on something in their flat.
Then go downstairs and look at your meter. Has it moved? If so, turn all the MCBs off and the main switch off, then go upstairs and see if any light, socket or appliance has stopped working. If it hasn't moved, then there is nothing to suggest the flat is using your electricity.