It's a one step at a time process, that's all, but it's managebale, so don't worry too much, and don't overcomplicate things either. Get the foundations checked out, fit the lintel, tie the walls together and redo the 1st floor joists, fit the wooden floor downstairs, then get everything plastered, do the electrics, fit the kitchen and do the plumbing, then decorate.
See, straight forward and simple. You can get bulding control involved, but they'll just make you increase the insulation, so that'll cost more, but it's still manageable, and maybe it would be better to have everything under their control if you're really worried. Otherwise you need a friendly and helpful builder that you can turn to for advice, and give him a few bottle here and there as a thank you.