So it's 'your way or the highway' then?I'm so glad you posted that, now we all know what your views are & I for one haven't the slightest intention of indulging you
But maybe you could tell us this without 'indulging me'...
Do you prefer to have to think of a departed relative or friend at the specific time of their funeral?
Or do you prefer to think of them when a random thought/memory of them happens to appear in your mind?