I'm not reluctant to talk to them at all (when have I actually said that)? We're in the very early stages and haven't yet spoken with the SE, I'm just getting as much information as I can before we talk to the SE about this and other elements of the project (why would I speak to an architect about steel beam lateral restraints and flange width? I've had plenty of conversations with him about placement of skylights and how to ensure the room doesn't overheat in the summer though).
Call this research, this is one (of many) resources I'm using so that I at least know a little about what I am being told. If I do employ the wrong architect and SE, then by doing my research in advance I will at least know that this is the case. If I don't do the research, if I don't ask the questions, then how would I know either way?
It's a bit odd that you're coming on to a help forum, to effectively say, "don't go asking questions on this forum and asking for help or advice".
Your doing the right thing. I could have saved a lot of time and stress if i’d have done some research on my loft conversion rather than leaving it to a ‘professional’.