All true. If one has those concerns, then surely the first step should be to get an electrician to inspect the installation as a matter of urgency, to confirm (or otherwise) that the power glitches are not a sign of an ongoing fire hazard, rather than to contact the DNO?
If the electrician finds no local problems then, yes, the next step would probably be to contact the DNO. However, with the best will in the world, a DNO's investigation of a pretty occasional and very brief supply problem is going to take time, quite possibly a lot of time - so that if 'contacting the DNO' were the first thing one did, the house could have bunt down due to a problem within the installation before the DNO reached any conclusion.
I don't really understand why you are so against speaking to neighbours. Yes, as you say, a 'No' could be a false negative, but it's very likely that the problem is in the supply (and, as has been discussed, very probably not something that a DNO could, or would be inclined to, do anything about), in which case at least some of the neighbours might say 'yes', which would reduce the probability that leaving the local installation un-inspected would allow a house fire to occur - hence perhaps more reason to make 'contacting the DNO' the fisrt step.
Kind Regards, John