watch yourself!
Workplace harrassment/bullying....read this!
- Thread starter ABCwarrior
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watch yourself!
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No....just dinnae go there! 
But since you've mentioned it John.....when she is being normal(could she be bi-polar?) and talkative it's actually scary how much we have in common and what our values are....But I treat people better than animals and she's the opposite... She's carrying so much anger though, I can see through the facade so easily, but when she's being nice she's actually fine. I am truly worried there's deep mental issues going on there. Like today and one time she came in and burst into floods of tears because the transient boyfriend resurfaced and she was stressed out to the max I can see the angry, single woman act she feels she needs to survive and watch it crumble into a scared little girl. Aye she needs someone to love her I reckon, but like so many folk getting on in age they seem to get more and more fussy as opposed to less, and the chances of her finding someone who ticks all those boxes AND really does care get less and less. (Maybe that's why she can't move on from her ex the manager...I mean FFS, most folk would have taken any job to put space between them after a break up?)
It's not gonna be easy working here, but I do know things have been reshaped after today, and the balance of power so to speak has altered. I really don't hate the lass, I just kind of pity her, reckon she is her own worst enemy and could be such a better person (if she could have an out of body experience and witness herself for a week....!)
It's not gonna be easy working here, but I do know things have been reshaped after today, and the balance of power so to speak has altered. I really don't hate the lass, I just kind of pity her, reckon she is her own worst enemy and could be such a better person (if she could have an out of body experience and witness herself for a week....!)
good job for her that you are so patient
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Like I've posted the others walked without burning their bridges when she was clearly a factor. I've had 7 months. and having given up my old job I have no alternative than to make this work.
She has invited me to some of her exercise classes but so far I've avoided the question(direct btw) with excuses. It's awkward, not sure if I want work/social life mixed. But......and it's a big but, if I was it may help our work relationship? Or does this sound like a very bad idea? I mean, how could she be mean and nasty if I go to a spinning class and coffee after a couple of times a week? She had a close friend die from anorexia just after i started, really think she's not getting over this either and has lost her exercise buddy....
The more I've typed up here the more I'm seeing a clearer picture. She's hurting in so many ways and I've been(maybe one of many) outlets for her anger and frustration. Maybe I should open up a bit too, always wondering what her perspective is on the whole shebang....
One step at a time though, will see what tomorrow brings eh?
She has invited me to some of her exercise classes but so far I've avoided the question(direct btw) with excuses. It's awkward, not sure if I want work/social life mixed. But......and it's a big but, if I was it may help our work relationship? Or does this sound like a very bad idea? I mean, how could she be mean and nasty if I go to a spinning class and coffee after a couple of times a week? She had a close friend die from anorexia just after i started, really think she's not getting over this either and has lost her exercise buddy....
The more I've typed up here the more I'm seeing a clearer picture. She's hurting in so many ways and I've been(maybe one of many) outlets for her anger and frustration. Maybe I should open up a bit too, always wondering what her perspective is on the whole shebang....
One step at a time though, will see what tomorrow brings eh?
ive got to agree.
i leave work AT WORK.
everything can be taken the wrong way no matter how innocent you think it is.
then your big digging a bigger hole to get out of it.
Aren't most women? (With a few exceptions!)
Like I've posted the others walked without burning their bridges when she was clearly a factor. I've had 7 months. and having given up my old job I have no alternative than to make this work.
She has invited me to some of her exercise classes but so far I've avoided the question(direct btw) with excuses. It's awkward, not sure if I want work/social life mixed. But......and it's a big but, if I was it may help our work relationship? Or does this sound like a very bad idea? I mean, how could she be mean and nasty if I go to a spinning class and coffee after a couple of times a week? She had a close friend die from anorexia just after i started, really think she's not getting over this either and has lost her exercise buddy....
The more I've typed up here the more I'm seeing a clearer picture. She's hurting in so many ways and I've been(maybe one of many) outlets for her anger and frustration. Maybe I should open up a bit too, always wondering what her perspective is on the whole shebang....
One step at a time though, will see what tomorrow brings eh?
On no account socialise with her! The minute you do that and something else crops up you will find it harder to take her to task and she will see it as a rejection and be ten times worse! She may even claim to her boss that you are being nasty to her because 'she wanted to end your out of business' relationship and you were not accepting that it was over between you two. Trying to demean her in front of your colleagues was your way of getting back at her.
Just don't go there ABC. Work with her and draw at line at that point.
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