Brexit humiliation

[carmanmemoranda]

No. He had major headaches and expense as do most people at the early stages of the divorce. Ask them all ten years on whether it would have been better to stay married because of the initial cost and legal wrangling and I doubt if you’ll find many that will say yes.

The only comparison it makes to brexit is that there are still no benefits from brexit

 

[Mottie]

The only comparison it makes to brexit is that there are still no benefits from brexit

Like I said, it takes time. Go and have major surgery. You know you need it. Do you feel okay immediately after?

 

[noseall]

Perhaps you should stop quoting from them then?
Silly Noseall.

It's just as important to shame the liars as it is to promote the truth. I think it's a worthwhile endeavour even though you don't.

 

[Pat ex]

Is that government figures, your own guesstimate or spiel from a 'divorce lawyer'?

Yes from a divorce lawyer:

After a divorce, many people desire a fresh start. They meet someone new and get remarried. Believe it or not, many couples realize that they are still in love and they remarry each other. In fact, as many as 15% of divorced couples will remarry each other.

This may seem pointless. After all, why would a couple go through the stress of a divorce, only to get back together? What a waste of time and money!

Should You Remarry Your Ex-Spouse?

Seek help from the Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A.

www.marylandlawhelp.com

Others put the frequency much higher:

An Institute for American Values survey mentioned that 40% of divorcing couples are interested in their marriage restoration.

How Many Divorced Couples Get Back Together - Online Divorce

Online Divorce Has Collected The Latest Statistics on How Many Divorced Couples Get Back Together | Find Them Out

www.onlinedivorce.com

The only comparison it makes to brexit is that there are still no benefits from brexit

But this bit is illuminating, and could be applied to Brexit:

While there are plenty of fish in the sea, sometimes the grass isn’t greener on the other side. Being single and free isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. After time apart, some couples realize that they made a mistake and they still love each other.
The main reason why couples get back together is that they miss each other. Time heals wounds. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. As cliche as these saying may be, they are actually true in some cases. When a couple has been married a long time and they suddenly spend some time apart, they may realize they were meant to be together. Nobody else can fill that void.

Some couples divorce for stupid reasons. They may think they married too young and desire something else. Some divorce over stupid arguments that could have been easily resolved with some communication

So how can you and your spouse stay married for good this time around? First, resolve the issues that caused the divorce in the first place.

From the same source as above.



And the Daily Express reckons it's better the second time around:
MARRIAGE second time is better than the first,

Wedded bliss? Marriage is BETTER the SECOND time around, study shows

MARRIAGE second time is better than the first, a new study shows.

www.express.co.uk

 

[fillyboy]

And some realise their mistake and get back with the ex.
They even remarry.

I divorced and re-married my ex. I'm ****** if id ever vote to re-join the EU though.

 

[JohnD]

Nobody expects you to.

The UK government will eventually try to build bridges and tone down its anti-EU rhetoric whose only purpose is to enrage the elderly Brexers.

It will be quite a few years before the EU is willing to trust the nation of Johnson, Gove, Rice-Pudd and Truss.

 

[motorbiking]

Yes from a divorce lawyer:

Should You Remarry Your Ex-Spouse?

Seek help from the Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A.

www.marylandlawhelp.com

Others put the frequency much higher:

How Many Divorced Couples Get Back Together - Online Divorce

Online Divorce Has Collected The Latest Statistics on How Many Divorced Couples Get Back Together | Find Them Out

www.onlinedivorce.com

But this bit is illuminating, and could be applied to Brexit:



From the same source as above.



And the Daily Express reckons it's better the second time around:
MARRIAGE second time is better than the first,

Wedded bliss? Marriage is BETTER the SECOND time around, study shows

MARRIAGE second time is better than the first, a new study shows.

www.express.co.uk

As someone halfway through the process (the divorce), I suspect people feel so depressed at the prospect of getting rinsed, that its easier to put up with the old shrew. Our divorce law is archaic. I have 2 children who I need to provide for, but when it comes to divorce, it turns out I have 3. My ex expects me to fund her despite giving her 2 mortgage free rental properties and the family home, also mortgage free.

What I find funny, is you apply for a divorce and must wait 20 weeks, you then are asked "are you sure" and apply to the court again. You must then wait another 6 weeks and a day before you can apply to be divorced. That is aside from the whole financial remedy/settlement. At each stage the courts strongly encourage you to get legal advice and fill out a 26 page (minimum) form with at least 40 additional documents of evidence.

The "I do" bit can be done and dusted in a few minutes.

I divorced and re-married my ex. I'm ******.

corrected for you.

 

[Pat ex]

I suspect people feel so depressed at the prospect of getting rinsed, that its easier to put up with the old shrew.

You didn't read the lawyer's judgement:

While there are plenty of fish in the sea, sometimes the grass isn’t greener on the other side. Being single and free isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. After time apart, some couples realize that they made a mistake and they still love each other.

 

[Pat ex]

I divorced and re-married my ex. I'm ****** if id ever vote to re-join the EU though.

I'm sure there are many divorcees that regret their decision to get divorced, and are too proud/stubborn to admit it and seek amnesty.
I'm sure it's the same for many Brexiteers.

 

[motorbiking]

Don't know much about the US rules [as per the article] other than it differs state to state, but in English law the process would make it very hard for 2 people with a long marriage and assets to divide, to reconcile after divorce. It places you at war with each other and everyone knows someone who will give advice.

I very much regret that I wasn't able to spot the decline of my marriage and take steps to rectify it before it was too late. I submerged myself in work and focused on early retirement doing what I wanted. I was semi retired in my 40s, but started working full time during covid. In my case we were together 25 years, married for 19 and we got on very well as friends, cohabiters and business partners, but the passion and love had gone. Life is too short to spend the rest of your life with someone just because you have been with them for such a long time. I had hoped we could remain friends as we have both moved on with new partners. Sadly the divorce process is going to make that very hard.

My current partner is also going through the same process and we communicate way better. We are super careful to invest and feed the relationship rather than just be together. Its early days, but so far so good. I'm not sure I will ever be willing to get married again. Financial suicide.

 

[Justin Passing]

Don't know much about the US rules [as per the article] other than it differs state to state, but in English law the process would make it very hard for 2 people with a long marriage and assets to divide, to reconcile after divorce. It places you at war with each other and everyone knows someone who will give advice.

I very much regret that I wasn't able to spot the decline of my marriage and take steps to rectify it before it was too late. I submerged myself in work and focused on early retirement doing what I wanted. I was semi retired in my 40s, but started working full time during covid. In my case we were together 25 years, married for 19 and we got on very well as friends, cohabiters and business partners, but the passion and love had gone. Life is too short to spend the rest of your life with someone just because you have been with them for such a long time. I had hoped we could remain friends as we have both moved on with new partners. Sadly the divorce process is going to make that very hard.

My current partner is also going through the same process and we communicate way better. We are super careful to invest and feed the relationship rather than just be together. Its early days, but so far so good. I'm not sure I will ever be willing to get married again. Financial suicide.

I'd better make mine a cup of tea.
Bad habits - or no habits - are too easy to develop.
It must be a rough time, glad you aren't alone.

I was thinking of Mottie knowing how long he's been married - coo.

When my wife brought some flowers home I asked her who'd died.

It was our wedding anniversary, 40th apparently.
I still don't remember what month it was. April or May, never sure.

 

[ajohn]

My ex expects me to fund her despite giving her 2 mortgage free rental properties and the family home, also mortgage free.

My impression is that this is the problem area. A better solution may have been to sell the family home and split the value. Then comes the support aspects kids and maybe her. I've sort of noticed that being nice doesn't always work out via hearing things from people who have had the experience.

 

[motorbiking]

Indeed, I left mine with access to a joint account and credit card so as not to suddenly cut off funds. She emptied the first and maxed the second, so I had no choice. She is busy taking as many holidays as she can in the hope she can show a court a ridiculous established life style. Its not in my DNA to p*** away money, but as far as I can work out she has burned through the best part of £70k in a year. Still I've had more sex in the last 12 months than I did the previous 10 years. So mustn't grumble.

 

[securespark]

WRT not knowing your anniversary, WTF?

 

[fillyboy]

It was our wedding anniversary, 40th apparently.
I still don't remember what month it was. April or May, never sure.

I've got two anniversaries, I tend to disregard the first one in early December, although she doesn't.

Almost a year after the planes flew into the twin towers, a week before 9/11 the airwaves were full of talk about heightened security as there were expectations of a further large scale bombing to mark the anniversary of 9/11. By the end of the week most of us had been programmed to expect an atrocity to mark the anniversary of the twin towers disaster.

So, Sept 11, I wake up to the radio alarm and as I was lying there, the wife said 'happy anniversary'. I froze solid, and just lay there thinking what a bizarre thing to say. Then she said it again. All I could think of to say was 'are you ******* mad?', there were a few tears and words before it dawned on me that we had our wires crossed.
Ain't ever forgotten that anniversary since.