Death

[Softus]

My grandmother died last week, aged 97.

No sympathy please - that isn't why I posted this. It's just interesting how it alters one's perspective, even if only temporarily.

I mean, what is it all abaaaaht? Anyone got any ideas (preferably that don't rely on creationism)?

 

[JohnD]

It isn't about anything.

Like grass, we grow and are cut down.

 

[Softus]

Yes, but, but, it's all a bit weird. Innit?

For example, what is a soul? (And don't say a James Brown track).

 

[JohnD]

No such thing.

A cabbage doen't have a soul; an ant doesn't; a dog doesn't; an elephant doesn't; you don't.

But no doubt if dolphins employed other dolphins to make them think there was some sense to it all, they'd say there was. I'm sure it would make them feel better.

 

[Softus]

I take your point.

What then, is the physiological purpose of that crazy liddle thing called grief?

 

[markie]

My granny is 99 years young, and in her own words, she is fighting on just to get a telegram from the Queen then she's quite happy to meet her hubby on the other side. Mind you she's just about deaf and blind. But health wise fit as an oxo's.

 

[JohnD]

You're looking for Purpose?

 

[securespark]

I take your point.

What then, is the physiological purpose of that crazy liddle thing called grief?

We are crying for ourselves, not for those departed.

 

[Softus]

Very astute of you. Yes, I suppose I am.

And if there is none, then what is it in people that makes them seek it out?

 

[Softus]

I take your point.

What then, is the physiological purpose of that crazy liddle thing called grief?

We are crying for ourselves, not for those departed.

Well, yes, I realise that, but what's at the root of that self-absorbtion?

 

[securespark]

I remember when I was about 9 going into the bathroom and looking in the mirror. I looked at this boy and wondered who it was. I'm not losing it - I knew it was me!!

But I had a very odd moment of wondering what I was doing there.

 

[Softus]

I can relate to that - I think I've done it as an adult too, and when sober.

 

[kevplumb]

it's a personal thing T

i worked for years with the old man but when me mam died i was gutted

lost it big style

when he went it seemed easier cos we had the discussion first

if that makes sense

 

[jonnyfishing]

[Well, yes, I realise that, but what's at the root of that self-absorbtion?[/quote]

Memories ? Thinking of the good times and realising that they can never be again, you miss that person a little or a lot. the more you miss them the sadder you feel.

 

[Softus]

Yup, that makes sense (both of you).

(And JohnD of course).