Death

[FredFlintstone]

I never used to be scared of death but I'm petrified of it now. I do not want to die. I never really used to be ar5ed if I died or not - I just enjoyed life and was happy and comfortable with the thought of dying enjoying life.

However, since my daughter was born I've changed my perspective. Not because she needs me for financial support (I ain't got any finances and she'd be a rich little girl if I died!) but because I just cannot bear the thought of her suffering such grief.

Just another thing that adds a bit of perspective to life.

 

[Belrose]

Softus wrote: "What then, is the physiological purpose of that crazy liddle thing called grief ?"

Softus, please don't think I am being 'smart' or pedantic, but did you really mean 'physiological' or did you mean to say 'psychological'. I ask because it obviously colours posters' replies.

Bel
Are we having a gloomfest tonight ??)

 

[Softus]

Softus, please don't think I am being 'smart' or pedantic

Cool - I won't.

...but did you really mean 'physiological' or did you mean to say 'psychological'. I ask because it obviously colours posters' replies.

The former; i.e. as I wrote it.

 

[Belrose]

Thanks, Softus. The 'physiological' effects' of grief (e.g. the ache in the pit of the stomach, the lump in the throat ) must be a follow on from the 'psychological' effects ? As was said we are 'crying for ourselves' and what we have lost. The loss of one's mother, or a child, seem to leave the biggest 'hole in the heart'. Possibly because there WAS once an actual physical connection in the womb? The dead person has often had 'a happy release' as the older generation used to say, and wanted to be done with it.

I believe the 'soul' is just the life force (which makes cryogenics such a daft concept, but musn't be distracted - maybe another thread sometime ??) But if believing that their loved ones 'have gone to Heaven' makes it better for the living to cope, who is to decry it.

Bel

 

[securespark]

My Grandmother used to say "Don't be sad for me when I'm gone because I've had a wonderful life and lived far longer than I ever expected. Nobody can live forever, not even me. [we used to call her Bionic Gran because she was so fit & we thought she would outlive us!]Remember me for who I am now, not what I may become"

Wow. And I cling to those words of hers when I feel sad and it cheers me up.

 

[Softus]

Thanks to everyone for your thoughts on all this. They've helped me and maybe others too.

In view of Moz's recent loss I feel it would be wrong to continue this topic, so out of respect to him I'm asking that no further posts are made here.

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Thank you Softus, this topic is now locked