Nice to hear you are feeling better Eddie. In time you will be a lot happier and more relaxed with the situation. 
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Just read this tread. I am a woman, divorced 3 years ago, so here is a female opinion for you, Eddie. Stop drinking and stop feel sorry for yourself. It wouldn't help you and wouldn't take you anywhere. It is surely not the end of the world. The only real tragedies in life are when loved one die, the rest of the things are just dramas, not tragedies.
Get a grip, man, and think how you can do what is best for your children. Good for you for buying a house close to them. Did you find a good lawyer? Do you consider fighting for joint responsibility for the children? Sorry, don't know what the legal term is, but friends of mine who divorced recently agreed their daughter to live with the mother for 2 weeks, then with the father for the next 2 weeks, can you do something like this? How old are your boys?
It is not my business why you are divorcing but if you can afford, go to some counselling and ask for an advice about how to deal with your wife's hostility, especially in front of the children. She might have her reasons for this, or she might be going nuts, the important thing is to reduce the impact it might have on the kids.
Good luck!
Get a grip, man, and think how you can do what is best for your children. Good for you for buying a house close to them. Did you find a good lawyer? Do you consider fighting for joint responsibility for the children? Sorry, don't know what the legal term is, but friends of mine who divorced recently agreed their daughter to live with the mother for 2 weeks, then with the father for the next 2 weeks, can you do something like this? How old are your boys?
It is not my business why you are divorcing but if you can afford, go to some counselling and ask for an advice about how to deal with your wife's hostility, especially in front of the children. She might have her reasons for this, or she might be going nuts, the important thing is to reduce the impact it might have on the kids.
Good luck!
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EddieM
I've stopped drinking (well excessively anyway) I'm stable and ripping a house to bits at the moment. Yeah it's tough. Like someone said, why can't life have a system restore button.
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By getting involved in a project like the new house etc 'System Restore' is exactly what you're doing Eddie but just like an old computer, it takes a little longer. You'll get there.
Take some of vv2806's advice and talk to a Counsellor if you're still struggling with your ex-wife's hostility.
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EddieM
she's not too bad now. I'm just realising how much "stuff" you have to buy, everyday a new thing. Can opener tonight! Baking tray and carving plate yesterday. When did I accumulate all this stuff in the past ? What if we ever get back together??? I have too much stuff now!
The house is a nightmare, rewire, replumb, loft conversion, complete replaster, new floors, doors and windows, kitchen, bathroom and a full redec. Hmm work cut out I think, esp as can't afford loft conversions at the moment, will try to get the re-wire and replumb done with the view that the loft will be converted sometime.
Thanks for the advice, I have good days and bad days, but fortunately the good days outnumber the bad ones, plus my little project is keeping me busy.
The house is a nightmare, rewire, replumb, loft conversion, complete replaster, new floors, doors and windows, kitchen, bathroom and a full redec. Hmm work cut out I think, esp as can't afford loft conversions at the moment, will try to get the re-wire and replumb done with the view that the loft will be converted sometime.
Thanks for the advice, I have good days and bad days, but fortunately the good days outnumber the bad ones, plus my little project is keeping me busy.
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You need to wipe those ideas right out of your thoughts Eddie. Never go back to a lit firework - it'll only go off in your face.
Good to hear you're doing ok so far. Keep yourself busy and it will get easier with time.
wise words hotrod was thinking that myself
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EddieM
'just re-read this post, i cant believe how long its been. Things a bit better now, financially stuffed ,but have a warm generous woman, who supports me. Thank you diynot. and thank you for those that said stay off the drink, very very wise words.
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EddieM
yeah, poor woman ... !
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EddieM
well, i'm not teetotal, but yep, you cant block it out stuff needs doing.
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