Im not sure if im not explaining myself properly, or if im missing something fundamental. I'll try once more though:
I concede my pump may be underpowered for upstairs. But regardless, the following still troubles me, and I cant see how a bigger pump would solve this. If I reduce the boiler output to match the upstairs rads (18KW), I dont hit S53. If I increase the boiler output for both u/s and d/s rads (38KW), and both zones are open, I dont hit S53. This suggests to me I have adequate flow (though, maybe not optimal).
However, if I set the boiler to anything above 18KW, and only have the u/s zone open, I hit S53, because of the reasons I described above. I don't see how a bigger pump can solve this. Please set me right if Ive missed something.