Thanks for your postings, sorry for delay in replying, I had the installer here yesterday and then I've been trying more experiments (except when I've been lying down in a dark room with a headache ... !).
I'll reply to all queries first.
1) the new boiler was fitted in February 2008, the Honeywell power head for motor valve was fitted in April 2008 and the new pump was fitted in December 2008 but I haven't had any new controls put in (I've got a Dayton Tempus 7 and a bi-metallic wall thermostat).
2) When I got the S.53 error (warm start up) d40 was initially 62 before it dropped (rapidly) to 42, meanwhile the d41 reading was 28. After the S.53 error had been displayed for 5 minutes the readings were d40=50 and d41=36. After a few more minutes the S.53 error was replaced by S.4 and everything started working again.
3) The installer said that the radiators were balanced on installation. The lockshield on the living room radiator was already open.
4) I asked the installer about whether he would check for me if the ntc's are fitted in the correct position, but he said that the Vaillant engineer would have done that.
5) Just for interest, as Tony mentioned it, I had the F23 message (once) as well as S.53 messages before the new pump was fitted
6) I've increased d1 from 5 to 10, as Dave abd Tony recommended
So, my installer came round yesterday morning.
I told him that Tony and Dave had very helpfully suggested that I reduce the boiler output from 18kWatts (to 8kWatts) to help with the problem, and that running at 8KWatts meant that there are now no S53 errors on cold start up (only on warm start up).
My installer has now decided that there is 'a blockage in circulation on heating side'. He had a look at the three port valve to see if it needed cleaning but said that it was clean. His next plan is:
1) to add descaler, leave for 7 days and flush out (I live in a hard water area)
2) if this doesn't work then (gulp) he thinks that he'll have to start replacing my central heating pipes.
This morning (d0=8) everything worked fine on cold start up and then, strangely enough, I artificially induced two warm start ups (by turning the room thermostat right down to turn the heating off, getting S.30, leaving for 30 minutes and then turning the room thermostat right up again) and there was no S53. I'll try all this again tomorrow when I'm feeling stronger ...!!
Any further advice/ suggestions gratefully received!!
Thank you, Mary Jane