but so is she, so you either fix the relationship and build it back or you take the hit now. It will only get more expensive later. The longer you stay married, the more expensive it gets.
it's more about my boy than anything, i dont want him to miss out on anything,
if we split we would both struggle to afford a replacement house, even flats would be a struggle to buy just on each of our wages, meaning my son would be living somewhere in an environment that wouldn't be good for him.
neither of us could afford to pay the childcare costs, although he is now at school, it still costs a few hundred £ per month, and neither of us can afford to drop hours at work.
we have good and bad days, more bad than good, most the time she just goes off on one over stupid stuff and i really don't understand what the problem is, example, she say's "have you packed jack's water bottle".. i say "yep" she rants "yep, is that all you can say, thats all you seem to say these days, yep, erm and dunno, what is your problem".... i stand there just dumbfounded i'm being shouted at for saying the word yep to a question.
i ignored it for a bit, so i thought no i'll pick her up on it , i sent her a message while she was at work and said she was a bit out of order. After a few ranty messages back that just complained about me messaging her about it at work, she failed to see she was out of order. when she got home she moaned at me for messaging her and i told her outright its because had i waited till she got home she wouldn't listen and just turn the argument into something else entirely. she didnt really see my point and gave me a half arsed apology. lucky for me i'm quite thick skinned and know when to leave something and move on, something she is incapable of doing.
anyway enough of my public ranting about my wife, i've gone too far.