As for the delta t im pretty sure that for some reason anything greater than 15deg will signify a wait status in the boiler, S53. Its down to the sensors and their position and the bad software in the boiler(probably the most annoying design error with them)
As a differential of 20° would be normal operation then this is likely to be say 25° ? As the OP has said, a differential of 30° exists at startup and that triggers the S53.
On re reading the earlier posts there seems to be something else which both of us have missed. He said the problem occurs on ANY of the circuits. He has not been very informative about the balancing on the cylinder when asked. The cylinder coil could potentially be a very low resistance circuit.
Another odd feature is that he says he has tried to reduce the max output but the boiler does not seem to accept the instruction. Again measurement of the warmed up power input would give a guide as to the max power the boiler should be set to. These are aspects which need further investigation.
Tony